Piecing...gosh this is hard ll

[a new 2moro]

IM MENOPAUSAL...HAVENT HAD A PERIOD SINCE OCT...

[MidwesternGirl]

I did not have one since last june and then a few weeks ago, i had one. go figure..

[glamgirl]

Anew2 I have been having major upper back pain and this is where I carry the stress. I was nearly doubled over last night from the pain and the nausea from the pain.

Nothing was working, so I laid hands on my body and asked God to heal me and take away the pain. I kept praying for about 30 minutes and asking God for a miracle.

Then I started slowly feeling my body start to relax and uncurl and then I moved my hands to different parts of the pain and the pain was gone. Praise God!

Now my back still feels beat up and tight from all the pain, but I am good to go today.

Find a destresser! That should help. I like Lissie's ideas. Take some of those and run with it. Do the date night. My h and I always used to do that.

[a new 2moro]

ITS UPPER BACK PAIN...LIKE I NEVER HAVE..MAKES ME CRY

[glamgirl]

I am sure it is stress ANew2. I don't know if you into God, but maybe you could try praying. I will pray for you today too.

I know exactly where you are coming from with the back. Must be all the stress I have endured the past few days.

[momof2girls]

patti,
You are carrying your stress in your upper back...I did the same thing...awful. If you take a minute to really feel what you are doing, I bet you are holding your shoulders up and tensed all the time.

I was even doing it in my sleep. It got to the point where I couldn't turn my head or move my upper body.

Lay on the floor and put your hands above you head and stretch...than do your arms to the side and do neck rolls.

Try to concentrate on holding your shoulders down when you walk and stand very straight.

I haven't been around in a while and I can see by reading bits and pieces that something happened in your situation. Can you direct me to the thread? We are both on a close timeline and I think about how you are doing.

[heartbreak2]

N2M

Try a heating pad and motrin or excedrin something strong
lie flat on the bed or couch support your chin so it is not
bent forward.

relax your shoulders close your eyes and let all your muscles
relax and be still
put on some quiet music.

20 minutes of heat and total relaxation at least once a day for a wk.
if it is not better then I would think about a disc.

I thought I pulled a muscle in my shoulder last yr and it was 2 herniated cervical discs. I did not have surgery but not completely healed either.

if you have any tingling in your arms or numbness go to the dr.
if in the lumbar area it might effect your legs and kidneys.
If you suddenly start to have to pee and can't hold it.

my dr. claims that stress causes the muscles to injury while doing a repetitive movement that you do all the time.
It could be riding and jumping while stressed and just the bouncing of tense muscle.

any thoughts on .... my H fired his L last week and we are really close to a settlement agreement?
he sent me an email today out of the blue told me thanks for the txt that James Taylor was on tv and that we should file joint taxes and split the refund. He has been not speaking to me for months now.

not sure what to do?

hope that you feel better soon. Pain causes more stress and makes
you feel like crap and miserable. Time to take care of you

hb2

[Valentine]

Patti, go see your doctor. If you are in perimenstrual you need to take medication...if you you are IN menopause, you need meds...if you are so stressed that you are skipping periods and having excruciating back pain, you need to get it checked....see where I'm going with this???

LOL!

Love you sweets! I am praying for you....I hope BV wants to make made passionate love to you really soon!!!

Love ya!
Valentine

[a new 2moro]

i really dont think that day is ever coming Vali....its sad.

in fact im honestly beginning to believe. this reconciliation is doomed. someone said it takes two to piece. hes home but not really.....he cant let go of the cow. hes worked out a plan that is good for everyone but me...but i will be the "bad guy" if i dont agree. He feels responsible wont put her out on the street....blah blah...has no place to go. poor thing will have to go live with her mother. shes trying so hard to find a place.....

....so cow gets one of his smaller apts so warren can rent the big fancy one. she will still pay rent but more appropriate to the apt sz....so shes still around, warren gets the fancy place...someone moves into warrens apt..everyone won wins but me. of course this is all "temporary" til she can find a place.

guilt.....does he i guess so. I just cant get past how he just doesnt want anything to do with me intimately ....it just hurts that their sex life was so good i will never measure up. so it just triggers all these other thoughts of how he came back cos it was cheaper, or his animals.....but then he says things like going to weddings with her and hearing vows and realizing he was with the wrong person, those vows were with me.....

[MidwesternGirl]

you are in a lot of pain which i can hear thru your words.

i hope and pray that she gets out of there soon but she does not seem like the type that will go anywhere anytime soon and your h does not seem like he wants to do much about it either.

with warren living over there, he will be able to see all that is going on, right?