I know DB tells us not to snoop but let's face it sometimes it is warrented and even a smart thing to do. You can't always go on acting as if unless that is your acting as if everything really is screwed up.
In trying to figure out wtf is really going on around here (my home that is) I've been paying closer attention to the little things...what time h leaves for "work" if he calls at all during the day, what time he comes home, his behaviour when he does come home, when and where he actually goes to sleep, time spent with the kids, any drinking that I can see, phone calls in the bathroom or truck etc.
During his A before I knew about it I used to look at his cig pack (back then I didn't carry my own pack just waited for him to get home and would have one or two at the end of the day) and would often find a "lucky" one turned over. He usually explained it away as an accident but it was often enough that it may have been a childish move by ow after all she did sign a letter to him with T.L.A. (incase you've grown up and forgotten that it means true love always). His pack was in our master bath and something had me open it. There was no "lucky" but there was half of a pill. I don't know what kind of pill it is and am assuming it's not his script as it seems he's off that and if it were his script why leave 1/2 of one in your cig pack instead of the bottle. I spoke to my mom who works in the med field and has all the different books with pics of different meds to see if she could help identify it. What she came up with doesn't look good. I took it and will be bringing it to a pharmasist to see if they can help me identify it.
Some may say, what's the point. The point is when I discovered h's ea it was almost a relief...it helped to explain alot of the missing things in our r. drugs and drinking would help explain alot of what's still missing and if I KNOW more about what's going on with him the better position I will be in to put my foot down and not have him telling me I'm just a crazy spoiled little girl. Of course he doesn't use those exact words but he may as well.
any thoughts?
LL
Oldtimer,
I did look up the book you suggested on Amazon and even read some of the reviews. I don't think it's something that would benefit this relationship but may be something I look into at another point.
