It might not mesh with your feelings, but you are hearing your inner wisdom:
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I'm concerned that if I interven by either talking to H or getting and L involved then S16 will resent me and not feel secure in talking with me. I don't want S16 to think I'm interferring with his relationship with his father.
You can talk to your H and tell him your concern, but it you are too strong, your intuition is probably right. It will probably hurt your son.
It's ironic that he's doing this, but if you speak up it will hurt your son's relationship with dad more.
Let your H deal with those moral issues with your son. Your sons are a bit older too. They know right and wrong and kindness and unkindness now. But they love you both.
The truth is you can't control it...so don't try. It would most likely cause you more heartache and your kids more heartache. Concentrate on bringing as much love into yours and their lives as you can right now. As tough as it is, nurture their relationship with their dad as much as you can. They will eventually love you even more for that. And when your H comes to his senses, if he has any sense, He will love you more for that too.
I'm really sorry you're dealing with this.
What brings you joy?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
