I exposed it too (even though my husband had gone so far as to file for divorce!). I think that was the only thing that killed my husband's affair as well. The OW did not want a divorce. Once her husband knew (even though I'm sure she was good at lying her way out of it), that's when she would no longer risk having me interfere in her life.
Also, my husband was probably tired of her getting mad at him about my interference... he got to see an "ugly side" of her.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
