I want my kids to grow up knowing what a loving relationship is.
Good luck! If that were so easy there wouldn't be so many divorces or relationship books out there. And chances of things working out well with a second (or third) marriage are even slimmer. Honestly, few divorced people I know are ever able to do that (at least for any length of time... those "love" feelings typically end when the good and bad stuff in a relationship start emerging... and they always do). Unfortunately, statistics are heavily against it.
Originally Posted By: tornin2
Anyway, speaking from a BS perspective, if you can really give her love, you should stay. Not just for the kids tho - I think other people have said this too. Obligation and love aren't the same and I think my kids - even tho at 8 and 6 they are pretty little still - can sense that there isn't love between us.
So what's this definition of love here? I'm not saying there aren't good reasons for a divorce. But oftentimes people think pretty negatively of their situation and later regret leaving it because the relationships they find end up being worse... and, not only that, they have to raise, or live with, someone else's kids (who hate them), and only visit their own children (who love them).
Is that gamble worth it?
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