S16 told me that H asked him if OW could come with them on their fishing trip they are taking during Easter break. S15 told H that he was Ok with this. I'm not! S16 said it's been 4 months since H walked out and S16 is ready to get on with his life. He understands that I'm not but that shouldn't stop him. I explained to S16 that H and I are still legally married and that H shouldn't be asking such things of S16. That it's not appropriate for H and OW to be going on a trip with S16. What do I do?
H and I aren't legally separated (no papers filed) so I don't believe that I can have an L do up papers stating that non-related persons of the opposite sex can not sleep overnight while in the presence of the minor child.
Do I confront H regarding how this isn't appropriate for our S16 to be subjected to.
I'm concerned that if I interven by either talking to H or getting and L involved then S16 will resent me and not feel secure in talking with me. I don't want S16 to think I'm interferring with his relationship with his father.
S16 believes that he has hurt me but he also doesn't want to disappoint his dad. S16 thinks I'm mad at him but I tried to explain to him that I'm not mad at him at all but I am mad at his dad for asking if the OW could come on their trip.
H is the one that keeps saying not to bring the boys into this. Look what he's doing!
WHAT DO I DO?
P.S. This is good for a laugh. H and I paid off some credit cards yesterday. I again explained to H that it wasn't fair that I help pay off credit cards for things he's charged for OW (dinners, gifts, things to fix her home). That he should pay for those things from his 1/2 of the money that was left over after we paid of H's credit card for non OW charges. H said that he didn't spend anymore on her than she did on him. WTF?! Did he really just say that!? WTF?!
