The Suggestion Box

[Lissie]

Faith, there's not a scripture written that will encompass all that is going on this board and in it's undercurrents.

But good on you for trying

What has happened here?

Here of all places.

This place that taught me , that even tho Javier left me, I was going to be ok.

This place that was a blanket, for me and so many others.

This place where i have met some of the best people I know.

This place where I met someone and realized that after everything i have been thru, i can fall in love again.

I understand about the banning, and the deleting of posts.

I understand that should not of taken place.

But I also understand that this VERY same place, is the place that taught me to try to forgive, and not judge.

What happend to all that the we have learned?

Have we been all lying to ourselves, and to our friends here?

Do we really only post the "script" and not mean it.

I for one know people personally from this board that have really embraced this journey, and have really made a choice to 'change" for the better.

So, when i see all this judgement, and bickering, in some way, it discredits the wonderful people that have really made an effort.

B/c if the newbies see this disregard that we are now having for our selves? then how can they trust anything we say to them?

Bill and Deb, I am behind you 100 percent. Did I think that way, when i first came here. No way.

But in time, I saw different, shoot, it even happend to me, as it was posted on this very thread.

After all the shite we have been thru, to now be upset, or feel like we can't take advice from someone that is divorced, or now getting married to someone else, is just crazyness.

We all came here together, now after some time. Some are still standing, some are divorced, some are just finding their own groove.

That is what a family is about, you kind of spread your wings, and go on with your life.

How dare we not respect that?

How dare we judge?

I am divorced, and never in a million years thought that would happen. But it does not mean that I am a failure. It does not mean that I wouldn't be able to help someone else, and it doesn't mean that God loves me any less.

WE all have been blessed with each other. I tend to have the same friends I have had for the past 20 years or so.

So I would think for it to be the same with the friends I have made here.

I can not preach about standing or not standing. I believe it is very personal.

I believe that no one should be attacked if they decide to step down.

I will help who I can stand for as long as they can, as long as they are not standing for abuse. As long as that fine line has not been crossed.

So God-willing the suggestions we put in here, will help create again, that wonderful "safe" feeling, that so many people have felt, when they came here.

I pray that the suggestions that are put in here, not only direct the way the forum should "look" but also direct the way the forum should feel.

We are adults here, so why is it when we should ban together the most, we are pulling us apart.

Yes I am one of the sensitive ones, but i can take a 2x4 when needed and welcome it in fact.

My style is to be a hand holder, a person that helps thru love and hugs and smooches, and prayers.

But I am relieved that AmyC , or Ian, come up behind me and throw out some tuff love,to the same person.

I am happy that Bworl, and Deb can tell people that thru the midst of hell, they can rejoice in true love again, and that maybe, just maybe, that true love might find someone else.

I am glad that BND,and Jack can say that they have been thru hell, and now can talk about a new set of hell, and smiles while piecing.

I am happy, that Always 14, and Althea and I can post about being divorced, and becoming stronger women. I am happy that we can post that this mess did not kill us.

So may others can bring so much to the table.

Let us keep that flow.

Let us keep that love.

Let us keep that respect.