I think it is a great idea to have a thread dedicated to improving these situations. Now how do we make sure that it serves the actual purpose that it was intended to serve?
I think you've started a great dialogue with some excellent ideas. Thank You.
My suggestion regarding SG was merely a suggestion. It was not intended as a demand nor to be disrespectful. Most of us (if not all) understand and have felt the pain of infidelity. We know first hand that the destruction of trust and the difficult process of rebuilding. Not everyone feels betrayed here. But quite a few do feel betrayed. SG has been a Godsend to the DB admnistrators. They love her and that gives her some great credibility. She wouldn't have been around for so many years if she were not a great asset. I'm not asking anyone to agree with me. Rather, I appreciate hearing both sides when offered in a constructive and cordial manner. I personally feel many of us need to heal before SG moderates our forum. I'm not wishing her to go to some dark dungeon and stay there. I don't expect her to step away; but it was a suggestion. I will be happy either way--SG isn't going to ruin my day!! But I'm a trusting person and I feel scared and vulnerable right now. Others may feel this way too. It may take some of us some time to heal and rebuild trust.
As for my comment about whether the MLC forum moderator should be an MLC-LBS or former MLCer, that was meant as a question to discuss, not an endorsement. (Maybe that was clear before, but I wanted to clarify anyway)
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How do we get posters to understand that their are many different styles on this board and if it rubs them the wrong way, how do we suggest they handle it?
In many ways this community has shown compassion and understanding for our differences through this turmoil, and not merely for differing styles, but differing belief systems and philosphies. People banded together and defended differing views. People here offer love and hugs even when they disagree with the strategies or actions of another. You know what that is...that's a family.
How do we maintain this...perhaps we do as we have done...? I don't know. But I think both Ian and Jeff have given us some seeds to think about.
