For starters, I had to realize that only God can work on this and He has given me the strength and courage to be the following:
patient kind loving from a distance a good listener
and most of all:
being consistent with my behavior.
I am not one day bashing him, the next being kind. I am the same at all times.
With those things I think it has helped me to cope with what H has been telling me. I want to be able to allow him to feel comfortable around me and in our home. He does not need any added pressure from anyone about what he has done.
I will allow him his space, as much as he needs.
It is those things and a lot of prayer that has been so powerful in this crazy adventure.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19