Welcome Sandy, Sorry you're here, but it's a good place actually, and you'll get a lot of good advice. I agree with dry-heat, you need to validate his feelings. I will disagree about saying, "I'm sorry you feel that way." only because my h HATES when I say that and tells me to not apoligize for his feelings...but that's my quircky husband.
One of the best things I heard when I came here was to not believe anything your husband has to say, and only 50% of what you see. Likely, he's going to say a lot of things that hurt you. He might say very vile, mean things to you. Grain of salt. It's hard, I know. But, if your h sees that you're OK without him, he might question leaving.
Be upbeat, be strong, be OK
Come here often, this board has gotten me through some really rough waters...I don't know what I would have done without it sometimes.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
