Forrest, thanks for stopping by and coming down to earth for a bit ;-) In a nutshell: W is friendly but I've been initiating all contact recently (phone or meetings in public places). The mention of exploring R however mild/indirect sets her off - tears, blame, anger, attack - tested this a week ago and quickly backed off; called her next day and she was back to friendly; left her that way and haven't called her in a week now. Kids are with me alternate weeks. D11 is hostile to me on the inside but cool on the outside; she and W are "buddies". For the past week I'm tired, I'm debating: friendly/dark/gray - so I'm doing nothing for now. Where I need to change most is to "let go of control" and listen well. I feel maybe I came into this too late in the game to save things; I'm a bit lost, frustrated maybe even depressed.
Found your thread: just 1 post and 3 replies?! And you are ahead of Lan the Man?! What's your secret? I read a few great/old threads esp some of Just_Me and you are correct history does repeat itself here.
