My dad was just here. He told me of his conversation with h today. He asked H if cared that he is missing out on everything with his kids. H said that he is in counseling and that he is on his own track to make himself happy.
H also talked to my dad about s15. My dad told him cut and dry that he walked out and he created the issues with s15. He can not blame me. Everyone has tried to talk to s15, but as my dad told him, s15 is as stubborn as H is and there is no talking to him.
My dad told H that 2 years ago everything financially was ok. He told h that the fact that he isn't making a living is causing this. My dad told my H that he was a bright, good person who can make a decent living and support his family, but H didn't want to hear about it. He does have a second interview for a job but the pay isn't much more than the bartending gig. Self=esteem prevents him from getting a good job...I think.
Anyway, I guess the conversation between these two men was civil. H told my dad to "tell his daughter to sell the house." My dad said nothing is selling and he wouldn't tell me to do that to the kids.
H pretty much told my dad that he wasn't coming back. Not sure if I should believe it but at this point whatever. I am fine no matter what.
I just don't know how to act when I hear from him again. I am certainly angry, but I don't want to be bitter. I am still standing.....for now, but don't know if he will ever return. His words today were powerful...to the contrary.
Thanks Snodderly, I appreciate your help in all of this. I could cry for my kids....there father has made such a mess and they don't deserve this.
