Mopsey, There comes a time when you have to spell it out in very bold words. He's facing reality and he knows good and well that he's the reason that everything is a mess. This man is having to face the consequences of his actions. However, he doesn't want to admit just yet that because he walked away and has created some bills that need to be paid, he's at fault.
I don't think you are the one that's holding him back on selling the house. He's using you to be the scape goat here and you have every right to tell him that you aren't going to do his dirty work for him. Mopsey, you've been the one attempting to hold the family together and be the strong one, it's now time for buddy boy to step up to the plate and be a man for a change. If he wants the house sold--he needs to do the work.
As for the suit, stop apologizing for it. You didn't know a thing about it, therefore, you couldn't advise him of it. So, let it go.
Mopsey, he's fighting with his inner demons and he doesn't want to face all of the reality that is trying to come forth. Keep your eyes and ears focused on you and your children. You are going to have to be stronger from this day forward. This guy is having some real issues within himself and he's going to be lashing out at you and everything that he thinks is to blame for his unhappiness and screw ups.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
