If I was in your situation I think I would write him a letter telling him how you feel about it all. You don't have to send it, infact I would recommend not sending him any communications at the moment, but write it to get some of the angst out of your system and so you can reread it and compose your thoughts. If you can, I would try and leave it 24 - 48 hrs before YOU intiate any conatct.
I am going to bed now but I am around all tomorrow. Call me if you want to.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength