H just left with S. He's got them both for the evening and then they're coming home.

He asked me if he could have him overnight on Sat night. It wasn't a really great conversation. I didn't have an answer for him...but let's just say that any empathy he had in our last couple conversations is completely gone. I was obviously upset about the request and told him I'd let him know. He didn't seem impressed by my reaction and when I asked him if he was mad that I was upset about it, he didn't answer me. Literally he ignored me. Then I asked again...he just said "I'm nothing".

Then he asked me if there was any reason why my sister would be calling him. I said no, why. He said she tried calling him yesterday, but didn't leave a message. I told him I knew nothing about it.
So I called my sister and asked her what that was about. She wouldn't tell me. We got a little heated about it because I insisted she tell me but she refused. She said it really had nothing to do with me. How can that be possible? Am I wrong to be mad about this? Who does she think she is? She assured me there was no agenda and that really it didn't have anything to do with me. I don't get it. I don't know if he is even going to return her call. I am so frustrated.

I'm worried about what it is she going to talk to him about. I don't want her doing anything that will mess up my DB efforts...she said I'm just going to have to trust her on this. How can I? How can this really be none of my business?
I'm wondering if she may be trying to plan a surprise trip for me and the kids to go down and see her (she lives in Houston) and maybe that is why she is calling him. But I'm kind of doubtful about that.

Man...I was having a few good days, I should have seen this coming.

I don't know what I'm going to do about Saturday night. If I say no, it is for my own selfish reasons. I feel like I have to just because I have to let go at some point anyway. I don't have a choice.
This just isn't right. Why is it that as soon as I get used to something and things seem to be ok, BAM...something else slaps me in the face.
I don't get it. Maybe I should stop trying to get it.
J~

M 35
H 29
M 4 yrs T 9 yrs
D 3
S born 10/19/07
Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day
OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08
Status - still figuring this out