I think part of me is afraid to come out of the dark. It is not just strength, but also fear of what might happen when we start to interact. I know that even if he says the nastiest things possible that still doesn't mean it's all over... according to other DB'ers testimonials who really overcame sitchs that others would have deemed hopeless.
T.....Did BF have a record of being nasty/saying nasty things? I think I can understand the fear part of things- I am scared of asking H anything about the aubergine in case he tells me they're having the best time ever. It would quell some of my hope of reconciliation, and sometimes in the night, I think that is one of the things I am clinging onto. I don't want to let go of it. And if you don't want to, or think there is a risk of losing hope, you shouldn't either.
Originally Posted By: transformer
Do you think email would be the way to do it? I was planning to send a thoughtful inexpensive no-pressure gift. Or maybe a postcard. Email is kind of in your face, but that way I would know that he got it. I'm not even sure if he's still living at the same apt anymore.
Hmmmm.....I think that I would probably go for e-mail myself. Just because for me personally, I know that if I sent a card and wasn't sure whether H had moved or not, I would then spend lots of time worrying whether he'd got it, or if he just couldn;t be bothered replying. I don't interpret e-mail as that in your face....a short one, maybe an e-card? might be as non-pressure and fun as a card in the post. And you'd know it arrived too....I think there's plenty of time to think that through though- no rush at all.....
Love the sound of the hospitality muffins. You'll have to come to London next so I can get some of those
