Mixed Signals - version 13...

[catfan]

Dom you are close to my personal theory and that of a few folks that know her.

1) She knows it'll work but is afraid it won't. (She's made some indication to this in the past.)
2) She's so stressed by work that she can't see how working on our marriage will reduce her stress or having a good marriage will reduce her stress.
3) She wants someone else to do the work.
4) She doesn't want to face her own demons and issues.

I think #1 is slowly, very, very slowly eroding because of my changes. #2 goes hand in hand with #4 in she's no addressing her issues that ultimately are the root cause of most of her stress. While #3 is her just hiding from #2 and 4.

So where does it leave me? I think focusing on me and moving myself forward in life. I can't do her work for her and she knows it. Ultimately she'll have to come to terms with that idea and to terms with the fact that her issues will still be with her married to me or not.