That sucks SPM. It's a bit out of my experience, but yes, it does sound like outside influence. I never saw it quite that nasty, personally. My experience was that agreeing with my W caused her to put the D attorney on hold and agree to a final attempt to work out the marriage.
SSW are like vampires. Can't wait to find new victims... err, inductees. I'm mind reading here, but the idea of the finality may have hit her very hard and frightened her. Anger is a common manifestation of fear. It's also possible the lawyer is driving the bus. I hate lawyers. Well, I hate aggressive divorce attorneys anyway.
Any way, it sucks, and I wish I could offer more than just good words to you.
