I agree with you that there have been some problematic dynamics on the MLC forum.
But I think those problematic dynamics are pretty much AT ODDS with DBing, not because of them. DBing is about become a whole, well-functioning, happy human being with strength, integrity, and self-respect. It is about moving away from being a victim and owning one's choices. It is about open-mindedness, compassion, validation, and respect for oneself and the WASs. It is about becoming the person we want to be for ourselves and for any future R we might, whether it is with a WAS or someone else.
The problematic dynamics that I've seen in the MLC forum are at odds with the DB project, so-construed. I believe that is why the moderators intervened (though I wish they had done it differently). If so, maybe those dynamics will shift and the forum will move into a more productive healthy mode.
