Hi Mandy, I have tried to keep communications open, I have offered to vacate home on occasion to allow H to visit. I have offered occasional updates and let H in on family stuff, at one point approx 12 months ago I did send an e-mail expressing that I was angry with the way he had treated sons, I said that he was opposed to conditional love but he was doing just that to our sons, his love had become conditional. I know bad DB but at the time I felt I had to say it. I also told MIL the same, she did listen, she has made the effort to rebuild her relationship with her only grandchildren. H didn't respond at all - he doesn't respond to anything. I have given up, I no longer think about DB, I just get on with my busy life and make sure my sons are ok.
