Yes Brad you are right. It is one of the most painful things to go through. I'm really disappointed and saddened to hear that divorce is so acceptable in Europe. Prior to spliting the accounts on Monday, you might want to consider opening a new one in your name only today and having your pay checks go directly to it so you have more control (that's what my husband did). If W asks about this or seems angry just tell her you are trying to make everything easier for her (getting the ball rolling where she wants to go). With anything you do, always turn it around and make it sound like you are doing it to help her. Even if that's not the reason! Always seek out an angle that will make it sound like you are trying to benefit her. For example, if you want more time with the kids tell W that you know how hard it is taking care of the kids, you can imagine how difficult single-parenthood can be so you just want to help her out by giving her extra free time for herself... yada yada...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
