I can read the frustration in your last post. I'm with JM here that if you really want the D, then go ahead and move forward. That is ok. However, if you still would like for this to have a chance to work, then saying the D is an inevitable situation only amounts to pressure on your W.
There is a thread by Meredith where she discusses how she divorced her husband and they got back together (I think JM did this scenerio as well). In any event, Meredith said she knew divorce was one of the options, but she waited until she was 100% comfortable and calm about it to do it.
Your D was filed by you, so you do hold the cards. I would just caution you to make sure you are ok w/ that step before finishing it out.
Remember I understand your feelings very, very well. I'm not sure my marriage will make it either. I may be ready to chuck in the towel myself very soon. I'm not sure when that will be, but I can definitely sympathize with your feelings, despair and frustration.
Hang in there and whatever you decide, we're behind you.
