MMO I have to say, with what I think I'm hearing from you...I agree.
Using DB techniques when someone is in the MLC, and it appears you are trying too hard...is MORE OF THE SAME and harmful to yourself. Using it to diffuse intense situations, to build your skills in communication, can be helpful to yourself and a given situation.
Are we on the same page?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001