H is having affair after all

[Evie]

He came eventually and not like a dog with it's tail between his legs like like I thought he would. He came in and said he was sorry that i had found out the way I did - B*****d.

Background on how I found out, it's complicated, i'll try and make it easy.

I have suspected P/A for a year, H denied, decided to put these issues/thoughts out of my head and DB as best I could, all the while feeling i'm in quick sand, but H was still VERY MUCH connected, although half in the door as a married man, half out the door as a single man.

We both work at a school, OW is a parent, H is a swimming instructor at the school and we also run a private swimming school. OW teaches for us and helps H out at the school. 18 months ago her H had a very bad stroke, which left him unable to speak or walk, my h helped her arrange physio for him.
Anyway, another long story short she left her H before xmas.

Today her in-laws have been into school with enough evidence to drown h, alot more stuff was said, but maybe not relevant here and now.

The Headmaster thought I should be aware, so his PA(a good friend) came and told me.

Headmaster asked H to come and see him later this pm, he confronted H with what he had and H denied the affair. He said nothing was going on, they were good friends and had been seeing one another as friends....

When H eventually got here, he tried to deny it, until I told him i had seen enough evidence to not doubt his guilt.

H said the M was over when we seperated in Oct and that the affair started in the late summer and ended last week, b/c things were getting nasty with her in laws and her boys were getting dragged into it. He said she was very understanding of the that the affair had to end...bollocks.

He must have phoned O/W straight after he got out of the HM's office at 3.00 pm and planned together to say this.. He texted me at 3.30 and said he had just got out, i said don't lie, you got out at 3.00pm b/c the HM phoned me.

He came we talked, i asked why, he said we just didn't have fun, that i had sexual hang ups from my first marriage (true, he was a sick pervert) and he just wanted fun, that I wouldn't do x,y,z, not that that was his idea of fun to do these things, but....

He said we were seperated, i guess he was trying to say it was ok for him to have an affair b/c we were seperated.. He said he was living his life and i was living my life. But if you read my sitch from mid december he was away on a ski trip and phoned early one morning, he over heard me say 'stop it' . I was talking to the cat, but he thought i had someone in bed with me. H got all angry which started a barrage of phone calls, saying who was with me, it was ok for me to see someone but we would need to discuss the house and financial arrangements blah blah blah, so where does he get off having an affair and been angry at the thought of me having one?

More was said, but maybe later. I asked him to leave and asked for his key back, he gave it relunctantly, but i need space, he has that with his flat.

Eve

xxx