I haven't been on the boards for months. I thought today I would simply see what was happening with people I knew. I am at a loss for words. I read your thread in MLC and couldn't believe it!
You have received wonderful advice. Use it! Start your D process. I know this is the last thing you dreamed of 2 1/2 years ago. DBing is about repairing yourself. Looking inside and making changes to better cope with the things relationships and life can bring your way. Abuse has no place in a relationship or any where. I'm behind you 100% in starting the D process.
Also, call me anytime. We have talked many times before, I'll support you however I can.