The Longest Journey

[Jen_Jam]

Right SD - seems there is a lot of H's being horses ars*es out there at the moment!
OK, now you are angry, that's fine, it's OK to be angry but TAKE NO ACTION. calm down first, then you can see this with a detached mind.

That done, some of the bleedin' obvious:
1. MC isn't working for you
2. stating what you want from H isn't working
3. getting angry with him and trying to provoke a reaction out of him isn't working.

So - what now? Well, it seems talk won't work. Or maybe one final one, in which you ask him to just think about it. Then point out that you are about to do something you don't want to do and leave him. Why? because you feel you've tried all you can and it's still not enough. It's up to you if you do this of course, and think carefully cos he may just say "ok then". Are you ready for that?

But the point being you can't carry on with this M the way it is. Yes it only takes one to save a M but it takes TWO to rebuild it. The WAS's are notorious for thinking solutions just fall out of the sky, and they are darned slow at catching on, but eventually my H did. He said "I am not the kind of person to juat say that I'm bored now and walk off". Maybe your H is just being extra slow? Maybe spelling it out to him in BIG CAPITALS might just get his attention. Then you have to back off and let him think. This is the hardest thing - trusting a WAS again. it;s not in the slightest bit easy, but at some point you have to let them rise up ... even if it's slow.

I'm not saying end your M, I would never tell anyone that, just looking for another solution .. will carry on thinking on it too.

I hope Rob's back soon and jeff comes along as well ... and Swashy, like a little reunion.

and one final point - how much is a flight to SD? My nearest airport is Gatwick if you can find a cheap flight to London. You are welcome to stay over ... would certainly give your H a shock if he can take his head out of his backside!