Moved out Sunday...very upset.

[nate75]

It sounds to me like your biggest problem with your marriage, is that your H has no idea what the purpose of marriage is.
It sounds like his idea of marriage is, "two people should stay married, only so long as they 'love each other'"

Which is exactly backwards.

if that were was it was all about.. there would be no point for marriage in the first place!
Two people who feel like they "love each other", are going to stay together, marriage or no marriage.

Marriage is a commitment, not a feeling.
Marriage is a commitment, to stay together, and work on keeping things positive between you, even at times where you dont 'feel like' doing so.

Marriage exists, as a recognition that feelings do NOT stay the same. They come and go. That's why marriage is a commitment, not merely a public declaration of "I love you"


If you can convince your H to change his view on marriage, then you could have a chance at a good marriage, I think.

Dom...that is so true. Thank you for sharing that insight. The question I have is...isn't it imposible for a LBS to "change" the view that the WAS has on the marriage? Doesn't that have to come from within the WAS?

Nate