No one to turn to- 2

[addie]

Thanks Stella. What you've said has really helped me.
I guess it is a positive that he's communicating these things to me at all (I wasn't seeing it that way). My H was never one to bring up ANYTHING in the R beforehand even when I initiated R talk. Since I have stopped doing that, he's the one that keeps bringing it up. Mind you he brings up the exact same things each time but like you pointed out Stella, "he is probably stuck with them circling in his mind until he is ready to move to the next stage." Your perspective about OW has also helped me to calm down - I always get so very worked up when I think about the A.