I just got off the phone with my XW, I called to ask a favour. It's amazing how hard it is for me to ask her to do something for me. I used to not ask but find alternatives or just not do what I was planning to do afterall she was under so much stress blah blah blah. So, I guess, this would be considered a 180 for me! I had agreed to take D and her girlfriend to dance class tonight but on Wednesday's I have been attending a video and discussion group at my church. So, if I take the girls, wait for them and drive them home I then miss my video night. I asked W if she would pick them up if I drop them off. This means she has to pick up youngest and oldest and I would pick them up at her place. She was her usual cold self but agreed with no problem to pick up the girls. Yippee! It's funny because I do her favours frequently yet I'm still reluctant to ask for one in return, that's my stuff that needs to be worked on. I am also relieved at not having to hang around the dance studio or patrol the malls alone. I don't need weekly reminders of being unwanted by Coffee Buddy, it really doesn't do much for my present paper thin self esteem! By doing other things I am moving on and not dwelling on that strange little blip in my life. so, it a win-win-win for me, I get to take part in my video night, ask and get a favour from W and avoid Coffee Buddy (who would be avoiding me anyway!). It doesn't get much better than that...well, not yet anyway!
