Moving out (actually MOVING/living elsewhere, as opposed to just spending a night elsewhere to cool off), i view as tantamount to saying, "I'm completely unhappy with our marriage; unless things change, i am going to divorce you".
if that's not the message you wish to send, then I would move back in.
If it IS the message you wish to send... then stay where you are.
other comments:
- If he didnt actually cheat, i think he was intending to. When people break up a marriage because "I'm not in love with you", it's almost always because they are "in love" with someone else
- Yes, I definately think it's time that you stop chasing him. You may have to just "let him go", and see what happens.
ie: you may actually want to stay where you are, if you want to be hard-nosed about it.
However, I personally would want to at least attempt to discuss the new idea of how marriage should work with him first (if you agree with my earlier summary of it), and a request to go to one of the weekends together.
I think that married people should always attempt to discuss something FIRST, before resorting to more extreme measures. (where "discuss" is actually a two-way street, rather than, "here's what I want take it or leave it")
Last edited by Dom R; 03/05/0806:57 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
