Well....I was in a good place with myself and H. I really was plugging along just fine until today.
My ex-stepmother decided she was going to sue us for 8k for part of the business she said that we owed her. This is the business....that killed our R. The financial issues we had from it....well I don't know if we can overcome them to repair our M. H is full of blame and to him it is easier to walk away than it is to fix.
The suit is nonsense, and I didn't realize she was suing H as well. When I got the papers my dad called the L and threatened some actions against his ex-wife....and she was supposed to call off the dogs. Instead, she sends H papers.
I told H that my dad will call the lawyers off him too. His reply was doubt that my father would do anything for him....but I told him I would have my dad call him and tell him what he was doing. He said he wouldn't answer (coward), so I told him I will have my dad leave him a voicemail.
Anyway H called screaming and hollering and spewing about this. I told H that I didn't know anything about him being involved...and he went off.
Started first by saying he was no longer going to pay the mortgage. That he since he wasn't paying the county taxes the bank was going to forclose (not). Said he wanted my dad to list the house and sell it so that we can each take half and move on.
I told him that I would not put my father in the position to sell his granchildren's home that they love. I will not help him sell the house. They have lost everything and I will not take the last stable thing that they have away from them. This is his ship and he is the captain. These are decisions that he made with out regard for how anyone else felt about them. I will not help him...and I told him all of this.
He told me I could get an apartment with the kids. That we can't afford the house. I asked him if he priced apartments in our town...he said I should move to town XYC. It isn't as nice or expensive, but I could use my dad's address to keep the kids in the school where they at.
I asked him how he thought that taking them now from their house and community...and all of the support I have in our town would help. Keeping them in school is great, but the social connection they have keeps them active and busy with friends.
I did say something, perhaps it was bad dbing, but I asked him how he could live his life without his children like he does. How he could not be involved in the day to day with them.
He said he thinks of the kids everyday...and how his son hates him. All I could think of was....and that doesn't wake you up. I guess nothing will. He is a lost cause.
I feel like I am back about 14 months ago. That was probaby the last time H spewed like this at me. He really wants to sell the house and be done with us. He really is never coming back. He said that was not an option.
I guess it is just easier for him to walk than to deal. MOW must be too important to him and he is probably just not pushing the D until he has his own health benefits.
H said that down the road, in 10 years, our children will resent me when they realize it was my fault that they lost the house. I had to laugh to myself. In 10 years, his precious d12, who he flaunts MOW to, will realize her dad is a cheating liar if he is still gone. She will realize how badly he hurt me. Now she has no concept.
Man....this man has no clue. I really feel right now that he could care less about me or the kids....he just only cares about himself and his MOW. I truly don't think he will ever come out of this.
