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[cat03]

H is in such a hurry to file he wants it to be done this friday, "to get this over with" he says. We agreed to a 'no contest' D, but now that I think about it, how can i agree to a no contest if we have not gone to a mediator and agreed on stuff on paper?

He is insisting he wants it now, first he kept saying it was to move on already, then he finally said it "so you dont' change your mind". He's afraid I will decide to take him to court in a legal battle. I do NOT want that and told him so, but he's deadly afraid of it.

The other big thing, is that he wants us to put on the D filing that we've been separated 4mths longer than we've had, first it was a request. And today he insisted like crazy for it, which now makes me 100% sure something is up, there is a big reason he wants this or he wouldnt' be fighting for it so much. We kept txting back and forth, he tried everything, kept saying how it'd be over "wont' be on this limbo" and that he just didnt' want to drag this any longer.

I'm still looking for a mediator and only got one, sounds good but I want to at least talk to one more. He is in such a hurry! there was an ow, he did promised her an R, it ended really bad when she learned he was never D nor S from me, she is a toxic person when they get together & he knows it and insists it's all over (he was txting her 2wks ago, so he still wants some contact)

Anyways, could it be he is back w/her and promised her something? I already told myself I didnt care if he was back w/her or not, but the mere thought of me helping in some way to facilitate something between them makes me dig my heels and not give in for those months.
I'm asking around to see if in any way I can get screwed over if I say we've been separated longer than the facts. And I told him not to file until we go to mediation, just in case. He is adamant to do it, but I won't agree 'til I know for sure.

BLEAH! he is in such a damn hurry, but dont' know why I'm surprised, we havent' really lived like H and W for the past 7mths, so in his mind he was already gone long ago. But not me, I held on to my end til the bitter end, so the grief of breaking it is all new.

Let's see what I find out.