I just was wondering if anyone can help me understand if I was the reason we couldn't make my H's and my M work out this time or if what I did and said is normal if/when the MLC'er is not quite ready.
My H didn't seem very remorseful, I still felt like I was walking on eggshells around him, and he continuously wanted to drink and go to the bars.
After about a week of that, I think my emotions just blew up. I told him that we can not have a healthy reconnection if he is drinking as much as he is and going to the bars all the time.
He said he likes that lifestyle and won't change it.
I don't know whether to think that he was just not ready to exit the tunnel and wanted to keep his security blanket (me) from moving on too far forward. Or if I just blew the whole piecing situation by letting my own issues with him come to the forfront?
I was only being honest with him, and he didn't want to hear it. I feel so stupid for thinking that we could make it and really hurt that he would rather have the booze/bars over working things out with me. This is hurting so bad all over again. TIPPER
