CAT03, I'm not sure we've left every stone unturned. For one we've never seriously tried counseling. Although she's made indications several time that she's open to it. In the end she seems to avoid it because "not sure of the value in it". She said the same thing about Retrouvaille even though she knows communication was a big problem in our marriage for both of us. We both could stand to learn more about how to communicate more effectively, listening, processing and speaking. But honestly I think she's avoided counseling and such because she's avoiding addressing her personal issues head on.
My personal theory on this:
She knows it will "work". She doesnt care. She doesnt feel like your marriage is worth her putting in the effort. Which is why she doesnt want to do it. She wants you to do all the work.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
