My story, please help

[GavinO]

Hi Saffie, sorry I think my explanation in the earlier post was a bit off, when she 'had a go' I listened and validated. The 'I ignored her and didn't listen' that I mentioned was one of the complaints she had about me. I of course was listening fully and understanding (even though she was a bit extreme)I defended only slightly (the really outrageous bits)and pushed only slightly. Other than that I listened and took it and validated (felt appalling inside but held on).