And I'm not kidding, the EXACT same thing happened to me last week ! 12 months ago he started acting all weird, just before he bought his 40th birthday for which, you guessed it, he bought himself a Porsche. So I completely am with you in processing the lies, the deceipt, the "you're never happy and just have to find things to complain about, you're paranoid, you've got problems". I may be a bit further down the "processing" line as we have been separated for 10 months, but was still completely crushed because not only did I find out about the affair and lies, I found out that they've been living together since August yet as recently as Christmas told me we could never be together because "he didn't trust me not to hurt him again".
