I hear what you are saying, work do do social events every few months and people do go out reasonably often so the option is there. I did yesterday on the fly to make a bit of a break.

Also to give her some space, I wanted to 'show' a bit that I had stopped chasing her and was sorting myself out.

It was part of the 'make it look like you are even if you aren't yet' that is dotted around the forum.

I admin I am feeling around in the dark somewhat but as long as I avoid doing any of the DO NOT's (or try to) I hope it will be ok.

She let me into her personal space to check her head for instance, she has kept me away for 5 & a bit weeks. Also offered me some food for the first time in about 3.5 weeks.

I am trying to balance a number of things and I am hoping that W will be open to reconcilliation and stopping this nightmare (for both of us)

Me: 30
W: 31
T: 9.5 yrs
M: 4 Yrs
No Kids, 1 cat
Had a bad year
Turmoil started 22/Jan/08
Seperated, same house 30/Jan/08
Wanted D: 2/Feb/08
Going downhill and towards D with nothing stopping her!