I think that's the conclusion I've come to Cat. I want to leave the door open but not sit in front of it waiting...uh uh! The disrespect and emotional abuse I withstood from this person is something I have no wish to repeat. I must now re-build and make my self strong enough to once again allow appropriate R's to have a chance. That could mean with my W if she is able to make changes or with someone else if that comes to be. I will not allow bitterness to harden my heart as this only continues the pain for myself and those around me. I once told my W "I will not let you or anyone else turn me into someone I do not want to be" I think that remains the best road to travel right now. Thanks for your wishes and encouragement. Hang in there Cat, us oldtimers have to stick together to get through this!
