If any of my kids told me that I would be crushed.
Me too. I feel bad when I accidentally scratch them. H was visibly upset when she said that to him. He needs to grow up and count to 10 like the rest of us adults do. D3 isn't permanently damaged by his recent stern behavior, but she will be 'chipped away' if it continues.
Funny that you said he needs to grow a set. His 80 yr old father told him to "put his pants back on, get back to the house, and fix the marriage." LOL Of course, he welcomes H there, but he did have his say. And yes, H has moved. Been gone since Sunday. But he will be here a lot, most of the time I won't be here, so that's good. We both need space.