Are you still seeing a C by yourself? Has he introduced you to Cognitive Behavior Theory (CBT)? If not, I would ask the C about it as I think it would help you deal with a lot of these angry situations.
In short, no one can make you angry. It's true when you think about it. You choose how you will react to the environment. When your wife spews on you, she certainly wants to react with anger to validate her feelings, but the fact is, she can't make you angry. All she can do is create a situation where you may choose anger as a response.
BUT...you have a choice. You can react with anger, or with calm, or you can laugh, cry, dance a jig, etc. But it's your choice.
So the next time you're confronted by her, just keep telling yourself in your head, "She can't MAKE me angry. It's my choice how to react." It's amazing how well it works after some practice.
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Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
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