Me thinks that she is confused and scared to move on so the easiest thing to do is project and blame. You need to take it man, agree with her and affirm her concerns. Don't ask if she is mad, upset whatever at you it just makes things worse. Tell her your sorry about the ants or whatever and that you will do what you can to solve the problem... then go solve the problem.

Don't go looking for any return once you do, just do it. After a little while she will realize that she can trust you more and she will open up to you without anger.

Take it when she tee's off! And no she doesn't have to meet you anywhere! You are the one trying to save the marriage not her, so she can do what she wants when she wants how she wants and there is nothing you can do about it but bitch.

So, suck it up and know that the response is coming and plow through it.

I will post more on your thread...

Me: 33 jacka** whom lied, stole, cheated, and basically treated DW like crap for years
DW: 29 kind soul who gave too much to me over the relationship

S7
S4

M: 7yrs
Bomb: 10/19
Seperated: 10/24

The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce