We went to the wedding reception, only knew a couple of people to say hello to.
We chatted, ight and safe subject, mainly about work and the kids, h seemed happy to talk, we had lots of eye contact, shared a couple of jokes, and had some food. Before we seperated it was effort for h to be in the same room as me, now we spend more time together than in a long time and we chat more easily.
S1 has a girl that we call his 'special' friend, he goes all silly if we say girlfriend. She came for tea. It is her birthday today so we had shopped last week for her present, he was so pleased to have her here. He put candles on the table in preparation and they had decided together what they wanted to eat: spaggetti Bolagnase and chocolate fudge cake with cream, so they were easily pleased. He was really happy.
x Eve
Last edited by Eve pka disapptd; 03/01/0805:26 PM.
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07
I am glad it worked fine on Friday night. Separation for me too kind of relaxed us both. Not right after, but a month later we started communicating better. Of course we still haven't spend any time alone but I hope we are getting there.
My S (6,5) is excited because my best friends D (6) is sleeping over tonight for the first time and has a huge crash on her!!
I'm kind of thinking about one of your posts from last week - that you don't make your H angry on purpose. It's probably impossible to get through separation without anger, then it's just a question of how each person handles that. I've thought a couple of times that it seems weird that H and I aren't fighting - at least that would be a sign of some passion/strong emotion.
Anyway - you got past the tension of last week and back to being pleasant, maybe actually even enjoying each other's company. So, now if things are quiet between you for a while, at least it will be following a nice time together. Hope the coming week is a good one for you.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now
Just ound out that H IS HAVING AN AFFAIR, with the person i thought he was 12 months ago.
I have seen emails and email hotel reservations, a photograph of them having a coffee/lunch together.
Apart from feeling extremely sick right now, its the lies and decept, I asked him 12 months ago if he was having an affair with this woman, he denied it.
She has issues with family, her H had a stroke which left him unable to talk or walk, she has withdrawn £60,000 from the business and £600 a time for hotels etc.
She left her h at the end of last year, citing his violence towards her. I don't know if her H knew then, but he knows now and is devastated.
So I think they have a long term plan.
He has been summouned to see the big boss at work as it has huge implications. The boss will tell H that he has told me of the affait this morning and sent me home, where i will wait and see what H will do. If he has any respect for me he will show up and want to speak to me, at least thats what i'm hoping he will do.
Eve x
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07
I am sooo sorry you had to find out your suspicions were valid. I can't say more than that you need to stay calm and not do anything you'll regret later.
