My story, please help

[GavinO]

I thought I'd update on the situation so far,

W stayed away Fri and Sat as mentioned above. She called me on Sunday to say that the car would not start and that she will be back when the AA had come to fix it, she wanted to let me know in case I wondered where she was if I went out, I offered a jump start with my car but she said no.

Sunday was mothers day so I went to see my parents, I believe she saw hers. Had a missed call in the afternoon from her and a text asking when I was back as she wanted to move something.

Sun eve she cam back and we had a brief chat, she asked how I was doing mentally etc she then told me why she wants D and blamed everything on me said she did not love me, had nothing left was hovering near hate, I ignored her, didnt listen and gave me a load more reasons and was getting a bit nasty. I spoke up a bit but not too much didnt push much and was polite. Then went to bed.

Monday she phoned me to ask where some keys were, conversation was pleasant and brief, she also told me that some of my stuff was where she found it as she was tidying up. Did not see her Monday morning as she stayed in her room and she was back an in her room when I got home that eve at about 11.00pm, she finished work at 10.00pm.

Yesterday (Tuesday) I got home from work and said hi then went straight upstairs to get changed for training and came down to use the gym (one in the house). W told me she was nipping to work to get some stuff and she will be back in a bit.

Later when she came back she offered me a jacket potatoe (there have been no eating together or cooking for each other or anything for about a month). I declined as I was going to go out, she got a bit stroppy and had a brief go about the wedding cert and asked if i had hidden it, I said no.

I went into the kitchen to put a plate in there and I emptied the bin, she asked where I was going and what time I would be back, I told her. she just stood there staring into nothing looking a bit down and she wanted some coke (cola) so she could have some vodka and coke, i offered to get some and bring it back, she also asked for some potatoes as well (we had none) . I did this then 'went out with my work friends' (I went to see my parents, its part of the game as such)

When I got back about 10:30pm she asked me to have a look at the back of her head as she had a lump, I had a look including touching her head and hair and confirmed that there was a small lump there but it was not a spot or anything. She asked me if I had a nice time. I said that I did and that I was goiung to go to bed, she said she would be up shortly. We said night and she told me that she had to leave early in the morning so I wont see her. I said I'd see her tomorrow eve.

I believe that there are some positives, only on Sunday did she say that she was uncomfortable around me and she has said a few times over the last few weeks that I was never going to touch her again ever, but I looked at her head for her.

She has moved some stuff out, only small stuff so far and I can't see anything major gone yet.

My parents soke with herson Monday and they have not been able to make any sense of it and they are finding it distressing (they really like me and want theri daughter to be happy (pref with me)) they said that she needs time and emotional space. Whenever they tried to speak with her she got defensive and fiesty. They backed off as they did not want to push her away.

I am detatching myself and backing off. I love my W very much but know that I choose and want to stay with her I do not need to.

I am focusing on me by doing the things I mentioned in a post above.

I know I cannot do anything about the situation though I can do something about how I react to it.

I am hoping my W falters and sees that there is hope, i have learned a lot over the last few weeks and I will make our M and relationship fantastic IF we get the oppertunity. I will make her feel loved and appreciated, I will involve her and me I will look after her and protect her and let her do the same to me.

I am good and strong and I have many qualities that girls would kill for in their men (sounds arrogant doesn't it but it is not intended to be). If W does not want that then there will be someone else out there who would benefit from me. I don't want this, I want my wife back.

I believe I am doing ok, people all around have noticed a difference in me recently (last week or so).

Are there positives or am I reading too much into this? I know it is a long game and I am prepared to play it as it is important to me. I choose my wife and I choose to love my wife (she chooses not to do any of that for me at the moment lol)

The kindness and guidance from you guys and my parents have helped me loads, any further guidance is also appreciated. I am relaying my story to hopefully give a little back and some hope to those who felt hopeless as I did.

(I may well feel hopeless at times myself and i am not 100% there but I am close)