Thats amazing,sounds like your W is thawing a little bit! Does sound like she is under alot of work pressure, and if she has been for a while, do you think this is part of the problem with her feelings of hopelessness about the R when she left? My BF has also been under alot of work stress since we moved here and I was just thikning how interesting it is, that whenever I see him he "downloads" about work for ages. He stayed an extra hour on Sunday and most of that he was talking about work. Obviously our WAS need to do this, and perhaps they need us there to listen to this stuff. But I was looking at him thinking, I am completely devastated you left me, you are fully aware of that, what makes you think I want to listen to all of this !?? But of course my overriding emotions are that I am happy to be there for him for me to share it with me, that I am grateful he even wants to share it with me and that we are at least conversing!
Its interesting what you said Bombadier about doing little acts of kindness...my BF surprised me by bringing his bike rack over for me on Sunday. Instinctively I knew it had nothing to do with him wanting to get back with me, but it was a very thoughtful gesture which surprised me. So, what you said makes sense.
Its depressing though isnt it, getting emails and the odd phonecall and act of kindness can lure you into thinking that they want you back...but until they actually SAY anything to the contrary, it is still over. This is the bit I struggle with, its like operating in a vacuum.
Glad to hear your W is reaching out Purr, and she is, you're not imagining it! Well done on getting out and about, I am still not doing so well on that front. I need to be a little braver!
