The Suggestion Box

[charlie_girl]

I had to weigh in on this, as this board has been such a comfort to me, it was all that really helped keep me together when I hit bottom.

When I first came here, I posted a few times, got some great replies, then as I started feeling worse I just read, rather than posting. I have followed so many of the stories on here, have been rooting for all.

This may not good DBing, but I am having a hard time with some of the "do as I say, not as I do" here.

This is real life, our lives, and LBS are just as human as the MLC spouses. Some of us stand, for awhile, for a long time, and some forever.

Yes a few people have met on this board, it is not the intent of the board for that to happen, but it does, after all are we not all less than perfect, and capable of making mistakes? And is it really a mistake if this happens, sometimes yes, sometimes no.

But I think we owe it to these people to "not cast stones" as they have valuable advise to offer, some of the wisest and calmest words have come from BWorl, and Jack-Three-Beans, two men that got involved with other people on the board.

Jeanette, you strike me as a woman I would enjoy knowing, you have a wicked sense of humor, great wit, all the things that I enjoy in my friends.

So let's pretend I am your friend, and I get to be an honest friend that gets to tell you as I see it, and you get to listen or discard as you see fit.

I have watched while you got upset with BWorl & Deb13, Lissie & Jack, Fig & Going Solo, and it ruined some good friendships that you were developing. What about giving these people credit for the fact that when they did get involved, that they had all stopped standing at the time? My question to you is how is this any different than what you were doing, you were standing, but had a boyfriend while standing. Because you did not meet him on the boards that made it better? Not at all, all it did was make you human, just like the rest of them, coping with a crisis in the best manner that you could.

As the favorite saying here goes, stop, be still, listen, and take a look at yourself and your actions. I did not see one person slam you for having a boyfriend, which was good as no one has the right to do that, and you should be applying that same action to others.

Everyone has something of value to add to this board, all in their unique ways, just look at some of the posters:

AmyC - view from the other side, wicked sense of humor
Dry_Heat - wonderful sense of humor
Bworl & Jack - some of the calmest advise around
RCR - takes an interest in all the newbies
Cinders - wonderfully sweet
IMP & SWL - no holds barred, tells it like it is
Always_14 & Baseball Annie & Mothermoving on - 3 of the strongest women on these boards
Yellowrose, Saffie - people that have made it all the way through
Brandnewday - practical, reconcilled, spiritual
MMF - spiritual, available to give hugs
Was2sad - greets all newbies, checks on everyone, funny tales of wisdom
Lissie & Valentine - full of charm and graciousness
Grace - lives up to her name impressively
Mrs H, Treese, Mopsey - vunerable, open people
Snodderly - what can you say, most helpful on board
All the people on surviving the D board - shows us there is a good life after all.

I could go on and on about all the other posters, but I want to go to bed at some point LOL. Ask yourself, what would you like listed after your name?

Thanks to all, even though I have never met any of you, you have helped me more than you could ever know. It is wonderful to know that people like you exist.

nite!!