I have followed your stich, I think we are amongst the few where our H's just turn away, they say that they do the absolute opposite of how they used to act, well this is just so spot on.
my eldest son said last night that he feels nothing for his dad, that after two years there is nothing left. my sons do not get excited or even apprehensive when he calls, they feel blank.
Jmw it is sad to watch and sad to go through, my son is now the same with his dad, something I would have never ever thought would happen, the end of this month is the year of no contact from dad to son, it is so so sad, how can he just throw away his only child for the thing he is married to. his loss
Mandy, I have been through something similar to you in the sense that my XW walked off and left our 2 kids and has no acknowledgement of them at all. I wish I could say our stiches are the only ones like these I have seen, but unfortunately, I have seen them all too many times over the years. I just feel that our society as a whole just excuses poor and immoral behavior. We do not hold people accountable for thier actions anymore. I honestly think the only things people are looked down upon today in our society is murder, rape, and child molestation. Everything is no one could really care less. Anyway, all you can do is just move on without him.
Hi Mandy, I have tried to keep communications open, I have offered to vacate home on occasion to allow H to visit. I have offered occasional updates and let H in on family stuff, at one point approx 12 months ago I did send an e-mail expressing that I was angry with the way he had treated sons, I said that he was opposed to conditional love but he was doing just that to our sons, his love had become conditional. I know bad DB but at the time I felt I had to say it. I also told MIL the same, she did listen, she has made the effort to rebuild her relationship with her only grandchildren. H didn't respond at all - he doesn't respond to anything. I have given up, I no longer think about DB, I just get on with my busy life and make sure my sons are ok.
just a quick update, nothing new to report, still getting on with our lives, ex still not communicating with son, so be it, I am having fun with the long lost friend that is keeping me going, don't want anything serious at this point but a bit of male company is good
still here still viewing and noting your posts and sitch's, nothing new to report, although I do find it hard to understand how ex has just totally cut son, his only child out of his life, nothing re contact for over a year now, still find it hard to validate this point, and if he is to be within withdrawal will he ever contact his son again or has it been left too long, yes I know it is the guilt and shame, who could put their only child out of his home and not care if he is on the streets or where he as moved to, by the way the home he put us out of because he so desperately needed to sell it is still sat empty and looking disgraceful this is six months on, ex doesnt get seen up there if anyone is viewing it is his lovely money grabbing wife that goes and shows them around.
Mandy, I meant to reply to this sometime back, but I got busy. I think its sad that your EX has chosen to have nothing to do with your son. The selfishness of people never ceases to amaze me, but with that being said, we tolerate it in our society.
Hi Mandyloo, I understand how hard it must be for you to understand your XH's actions. Unfortuantely, there are so many MLCers out there who do the same.
I hope for you that you will find peace and happiness again. All the best. Take care. (((HUGS)))
I have been reading some of the sitch's on this forum and note that I am not the only one with an mlc'er acting like this. I have spoke to my solicitor today, she states that she has been in touch with ex's solicitor and he is no longer acting for him, I told her I am getting extremely impatient with ex regards him signing over son's bank accounts into my name, this was on the court order back in december, he should have done it by 1st January, hello he wanted us out of his house we did that, but he can't deal with his side of the bargain, I said I am worried that ex will or has withdrawn son's money from these accounts and it is a substantial amount we are talking about, the fact that he won't do what a court order stated is beyond me, it isn't his money it is our son's, if he as spent it then he will have to replace it but that is not the point, the point is it isn't his and he will have robbed his son, it is one thing to put your son out of his home and not bother with him it is another to steal his money and inheritance as well, what gives with them. There is no way out of this for ex, the house hasn't sold yet and he as been forced to lower the price, as far as I can imagine he must be getting financially strapped, they are still living the high life, and one would imagine getting deep in debt, but he still shouldn't touch son's money. this is exactly what the thing he married does, it is a well known fact she takes blokes on who have money, blows all that gets them in debt and then gets rid of them, that is his fault, but he shouldn't stop son from having his finances, what a selfish, greedy mlc'er he is, ooh I had to stop myself getting carried away there, I feel very strongly about all this, to hell with this man, I don't care if he hasn't any money left but pray give to our son what is rightfully his.
Forgot to add that his solicitor said to mine whilst she was talking to him "Dont go rushing into court again" what a laugh it was him that coached ex into rushing into court to get myself and his son out of our home, it seems its alright for his side to rush but not mine, he also said that he thought ex was complying with the court order.
