No one to turn to- 2

[sandi2]

Hi, I haven't read your entire stitch, just this post. I gather that H has OW and must be in MLC.

I'm from the other side of the fence. I almost walked away from my family. Thank God, I didn't.

Regarding the snooping.......I know this makes no sense at all to you, but your H does feel violated b/c of your snooping. I felt the same way when I discovered my H snooped. I was so furious with him and felt like I could never trust this man again. I would have trusted my life to this H of mine, but to find out he snooped and read my messages to the OM and then confronted me about them......I was outraged that he went through my dresser drawers and everything I had. He went over the phone bills to see if I had called the OM, etc. I felt like the wounded party although I was the one that had the EA!

Crazy, huh? But that is how they feel about it when they find out you snooped. I believe the reason the folks here tell you not to snoop is b/c it only ends up making things worse. You find out more than you need to know and it hurts very deeply. Then your H finds out you snooped and more problems for the M. So, all in all.....it does not pay to snoop. I know if the shoe was on the other foot, I would be the same way. I'm just telling you as a former almost WAW that is how your spouse feels about it.

Hope in some small way that helps. It is all a part of the craziness of the MLC (if that is his case). Sorry you are having to go through this.

Best wishes to you.

Sandi