Here is what my X began telling my sons right before our bomb. The boys were 16 and 18, dealing with girlfriends.
She told them in a number of approaches that women want what they can't have. They want the dangerous guy, the exciting man.
There is nothing mysterious to your W about knowing you are sitting home pining away. The same goes for lots of talk about the R when she feels uncomfortable doing so right now.
Consider another guy walking past her on the street. He smells good, the latest cologne. He is wearing a crisp new shirt she likes. Maybe her fav color or style. Perhaps his hair is short but styled, not dated. And if they were to talk to each other, what would they discuss? Would he ask about her, and listen? Would he be upbeat or pittyful? Who would your W want to spend time with if she could be with anyone she wanted?
Think about taking this time to become that person. I am not saying that she had better respond to those kind of things before the girl next to her does, but stuff happens. BTW ... you need to distance yourself from those kind of suggestions by others. That is not how you Stand For Your M, if that is your goal.
In so many words, all these things are in the books. When you finish really reading what you have, read Mars Venus, and Five Love Languages. Those might even be things you can mention on a date with your W, but don't offer the books as a cure for what is wrong with her. There is nothing wrong with her, from her view. But if she responds well to things you find in these books, you may feel like she is healing and so will you.
