Adding a new goal to your list would be great, just don't let up on what you have done so far if it is working. Cognitive compliments seem to be helping ... maybe both of you actually.
Anyway, so what is next? Anything around the house that W gave up complaining about? Something you could start doing in a not so obvious manner? If she had to complain a lot lately to get you to take out the trash, that is not what I am thinking.
Then it becomes something she thinks you didn't care about doing without it becoming an issue. You might even figure out that you aren't taking out the trash because you appreciate and want to please her.
But good weather is around the corner. Last year was there anything she wanted done outside that didn't happen? Cleaning out the flowerbeds? New plantings? Her name mowed very low in the yard so you can see it from the air?
Maybe you can think of something that she has not been thinking about and surprise her by doing it. If she says anything snarky, be prepared and pull out the old "I'm sorry you feel that way or think that ... but this was just something I realized I wanted to do because it needed doing, and I enjoyed doing it, and I hope you will be comfortable sharing any constructive criticism you might have in case I can do it better next time. No big deal"
BTW ... if her name is kinda long, talk to the neighbors before you mow the last half of it across their front yard. Just thinking.
