I have never posted to you before. But I identify. H had affair for 8 months. I found out in Nov. He waffled on what to do for 6 weeks. On Christmas he said he wanted to make it work but didn't know how/where to start. Dec. 26 I told him where to start--No more OW! No more phone calls, no more "seeing her", nothing outside of work b/c they worked together (sound familiar)?
He got angry. Said I was making "demands". I said you are the one who wanted to try to work things out but didn't know how. I am telling you how I need it to be. He refused, got angry, and left for a hotel. Stayed gone for 3 nights. I didn't pursue him. He came back on 12/29. And told me he ended it with her on 12/30. Don't know for sure if he did as I am trying not to be too much of a snoop. Things are going slow and steady, very slow and steady. But you need to think about what you are willing to accept. If he decides to follow your expectations and comes back home, will you take him back??? Just a thought.
